Subha Manoj

While I Was Away

Subha Manoj

Reshuffling that cupboard of yours

26 days into the new year.  I can hear people talking about their resolutions and how they are keeping or well… er.. not keeping it. But it’s interesting how people need January 1st as the day when they want to start something afresh. I don’t want to be a spoilsport, but well, its just another day of a year. A resolution can begin any day, isn’t it?

So when a few of my close buddies asked me what my resolution is for the year, I was blank. I am a planner by nature, I like to plan everything. But 2015 taught me that we need to give space for abruptness and preparedness for the spurts. A very dear friend of mine repeatedly told me (and still tells) to take each day as it comes. I have absolutely not given up on planning, but yeah I have definitely eased out a lot.

So no, I have no resolutions for the year. But I have done little somethings in the past few days of 2016 beginning. I compered a show for a dance institute’s Argentram function. I held the mike after close to 15 years! I took it up as an instinct but found my new found love for performing arts. I have always loved dance, drama and music, but being a part of it is a totally different world. I planned a sleep over for my son’s friends on his birthday. A turned 10 a few days back. 2 digit age has begun. Pre teens. Am I prepared… well, No. But am I ready? Yes, bring it on. I have picked up a lot of different books. At the moment, I am reading 3 totally different books. One is mythology, the other is based on Afghanistan and the last one is The Speaking Tree. Absolutely loving it!

After being an incomplete family for over 9 months (M being away), the one thing I really wished was to tank us up on family time. Then came Netflix. Damn! M being a movie lover and sucker at watching English telly, he grabbed the opportunity in the first go. I stood, sat and slept silently as I watched my husband being stolen away from me by back to back episodes of Arrow and How to get away with murder. Today morning, I gathered my marbles and announced that Netflix needs to make a clean exit out of my home. Surprisingly M obliged. As I write this, my home is peaceful and calm. Kids are sleeping and M is reading The Intelligent Investor by Benjamin Graham. Life is good.

Good start, I must say, because none of this planned. It just happened. Maybe “just happened” is better. The transition is sudden, quick and less intimidating, Like a vaccine shot. Quick at the blink of an eye and done with.

Let me make use of the teaching principle: From concrete to abstract,   to share with you a little something.
There is a cupboard, It is filled with things you have accumulated. Then you bring in something new. You open the door and stare at it as you see no space to fit this new thing that is an absolute must have. What do you do? A few things which have been there for long yet not doing much, you give away. Then a few things which you treasure, you move it a little to the side, adjust the spacing a little bit and keep the new thing. You look at your cupboard and smile.

The cupboard is your life. Make space for something new. You may reshuffle a few people and activities to accommodate new ones. And then some you may have to let go. At the end, you will look at your little cupboard and smile.

So, am I prepared to make that reshuffle in my cupboard, maybe, maybe

not. But am I ready, yes…bring it on. 

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