Subha Manoj

While I Was Away

Subha Manoj

When BODY takes over mind and soul

Women have so much worry about. With their period, should come a manual on how to deal with focus on their bodies. Like it is not enough that every month the body goes through a million hormonal changes leading to PMS, bloating, the dreaded pimples, the aches, nausea, to name a few, and then years down the line she conceives. A beautiful journey indeed, but let’s not forget the amount of hormonal stress the body undergoes again, which ends up with excruciating labour pain and when the child is born, the woman also gets a new birth. Well, how a woman survives that amount of pain always intrigues me! No, it does not end there. Then comes lactation where an entire different set of hormones take over. And then another one comes up when the lactation stops. Oh BTW, this is repeated when the woman has further babies. Now, now… let us come to menopause. This one is the mother of all. Calcium level drops, hair fall, chances of joint pains are high, hot flushes, skin issues, allergies… sighh!

During all these years, the one thing she keeps listening to time and again is: TAKE CARE OF YOUR BODY. Like advertisements, there is a hidden agenda… you know the message written in the ant size font. It goes something like this: TAKE CARE OF YOUR BODY…every one is watching you.

The woman must lose weight, watch her stretch marks, her diet, her hair, wax, bleach, colour her hair, go for botox, upliftments, reduce/increase her breasts, weight train, watch the bulges, the sags, the tyres, the handles. My my!
And then an article comes like this one. When I saw the heading of the article, I said to myself, “Atlast an article which could help women to choose the correct swimwear, especially for the typical Indian body. Well, the article read: FEEL CONFIDENT IN SWIMWEAR. I wasn’t surprised when I was disappointed. For one, the pictures adorning the article are no way the common Indian woman looks like. Second, women who look like that definitely are confident wearing swimwear.
Probably the reason why most of the women who do not go for swimming (though they would love to) do so because they are not comfortable in swimwear and also the market does not render to this sector as much as they should. When I went for swim wear shopping, it was a headache. The choices were less, there were no interesting colours, they had to cover the right places, yet look nice. After 3 days, I finally got what I liked, but I wish they had come in better colours. Coming back to the article, it went on and on about everything but the fact that even the not so prim figures too need swimwear. I wish they had put up pictures of ‘real’ women, if you know what I mean. 
I don’t know what kind of rat race are we in.  Good looking bodies have become such an obsession that it is taking away the pleasures of being a woman. For God’s sake, we are much more than just a vagina, breasts and a flat belly!

Probably, we can start with our daughters. We can begin the journey by telling them that taking care of our body is not equal to having perfect figures and be able to wear flaunting clothes. It is just a minuscule part of a big picture.

I remember as teenager, I would get skeptical while checking my weight. If my weight went even a gram more than 48 kgs, I would freak out. One day, after getting ready for college, I kept checking whether my buttocks were looking fine. My dad observed and asked what I was doing. I said, “I feel I have put on weight here.” My dad, without blinking an eye lid said, “You will need that fat to bear babies healthily, when the right time comes. Go to college. You are looking perfect.” I was zapped. How could he say that me!? I wondered. But today, I am glad he said that to me that day.

Recently, I saw a young girl adorning a T-Shirt in a mall. The T-shirt read: MY FACE IS ABOVE. 
That one said it all for me. 🙂

Can we stop for a while and fall in love with our body all over again? 

2 Replies to “When BODY takes over mind and soul”

  • How true….m glad someone broached this topic. Its insanely irritating that people talk about a fit body and not a healthy body…it even amuses me further when I encounter woman talking to each other about an overweight or slightly bulgy woman and refer to her as " thodi healthy hai" … High time we start correcting our definitions.

  • U said it! There's definitely a rat race. Women become overweight for several reasons. It's not always lifestyle that is to blame. Some women have to fight against so many odds, hormonal issues being one of them. Generally passing an insensitive judgement, especially people who don't even know her well, is the heights of cruelty and bitchy behaviour..hope ppl stop for a moment and consider that a woman's body with its imperfections is not entirely in the hands of that woman to mend. Good one 🙂

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